How to access resilience when you need it most ✨
A look at some options
Resilience is a word I’ve seen tossed around the internet a lot this week. Makes sense, given the current emotional climate.
It got me thinking about my work as a practitioner, specifically the modalities I use to help folks find more…resilience.
Sounds nice, but how?
The subconscious
To distill a concept that could fill libraries into a few sentences, my work focuses on accessing and shifting subconscious beliefs.
To achieve this, I use a few modalities that take you straight to the source including tarot, emotional integration, and hypnosis.
I’m sure you’ve heard that if you don’t change your subconscious beliefs, they will control your life. These beliefs become the subtle, insidious habits that develop like bingeing TV, drinking too much or eating poorly, talking down to yourself, blaming the world, doom scrolling, etc.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” -Jung
But the catch is always, “Yeah, okay, but how do I work with my subconscious if it’s so sneaky and difficult to access?”
Fair.
Here’s a simple way to look at it:
Your subconscious mind acts kind of like an air filter, except for thoughts and information. If this filter isn’t cleaned or tended to, the information that runs through it will inevitably come out the other side with a dull patina, no matter how many affirmations you said this morning.
Sure, positive affirmations can take a person to a healthier place energetically, and sometimes that leap is life-changing all by itself. But the subconscious has a way of catching up, since after all, it runs the whole show.
Make sense?
Benefits
The goal, then, is to work on healing or re-programming the subconscious.
The bounty on the other side of this work includes but is not limited to, improved self-esteem, better emotional regulation, increased motivation and productivity, healthier relationships, reduced anxiety or stress, enhanced creativity, improved physical health, and a strong sense of peace.
These are anecdotal based on personal experience and the feedback I’ve gotten from my clients (read some here by scrolling halfway). But I’ll also list some sources at the bottom here if you feel compelled to dig in.
Explore it for yourself
If you’re feeling the call, that little voice that guides you toward what’s meant for you, I’d love to hear from you. Attunement Sessions are 90 minutes, with a total of three sessions over a month or so.
We will start with some emotional clearing and integration and work in a personalized tarot spread so you walk away feeling lighter, more joyful, and significantly more focused. From there, I’ll pepper in other exercises as needed.
No matter what is happening around us, we are the only ones who can do this work tending to ourselves. Once you have a few tools under your belt, you can continue this work on your own, whenever you need it.
Pretty great, huh?
Some source material for ya:
1. Improved Self-Esteem
Brown, Brene. (2012). “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.” This book explores how beliefs and self-worth impact our lives and how shifting inner narratives can improve self-esteem.
Baumeister, R.F., Campbell, J.D., Krueger, J.I., & Vohs, K.D. (2003). “Does High Self-Esteem Cause Better Performance, Interpersonal Success, Happiness, or Healthier Lifestyles?” Psychological Science in the Public Interest. This research examines the link between self-esteem and life outcomes, highlighting how inner beliefs shape self-worth.
2. Better Emotional Regulation
Schwartz, Jeffrey M., & Gladding, Rebecca. (2011). “You Are Not Your Brain: The 4-Step Solution for Changing Bad Habits, Ending Unhealthy Thinking, and Taking Control of Your Life.” This book covers how understanding and reprogramming our thought patterns can help regulate emotions.
Gross, J.J., & John, O.P. (2003). “Individual differences in two emotion regulation processes: Implications for affect, relationships, and well-being.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. This study explores emotion regulation, showing that altering internal thought patterns positively impacts emotional health.
3. Increased Motivation and Productivity
Dweck, Carol S. (2006). “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.” Dweck’s work on growth versus fixed mindsets shows how positive beliefs impact motivation and productivity.
Locke, E.A., & Latham, G.P. (2002). “Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation.” American Psychologist. This paper explains how mindset and belief systems influence motivation and productivity through goal-setting theory.
4. Healthier Relationships
Chapman, Gary. (1995). “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.” While focused on romantic relationships, this book explains how awareness and belief reprogramming can help develop healthier interpersonal dynamics.
Hazan, C., & Shaver, P.R. (1987). “Romantic Love Conceptualized as an Attachment Process.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Research on attachment theory and how subconscious beliefs about self-worth and connection impact relationship patterns.
5. Reduced Anxiety and Stress
Borysenko, Joan. (1993). “Minding the Body, Mending the Mind.” This book addresses how subconscious reprogramming can relieve anxiety and stress through mind-body practices.
Davidson, R.J., & McEwen, B.S. (2012). “Social influences on neuroplasticity: Stress and interventions to promote well-being.” Nature Neuroscience. This research highlights how belief shifts and mindfulness can reduce stress.
6. Enhanced Creativity
Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly. (1996). “Creativity: Flow and the Psychology of Discovery and Invention.” Explores how freeing the mind from limiting beliefs and engaging in “flow” supports creative thinking.
Runco, M.A., & Jaeger, G.J. (2012). “The standard definition of creativity.” Creativity Research Journal. Discusses how a mindset shift and openness influence creativity.